Defining “Having it all”

Ok, I posted a message about “having it all’ and it prompted a question, what does that really mean?

Having it all may mean different things to different people. If you want to “have it all”, begin by defining what that really means to you and not what you think it should mean. Once you know what you want, you can take steps to consciously create it by adapting, adjusting and recalibrating similarly to what I’ve done in my life and helped many of my clients do, too.

I feel I have everything I want in my life–not in equal quantities but in satisfactory levels. This helps me live a rewarding and balanced life. I have meaningful work through my business; warm and rich relationships with my husband, children and our families; strong friendships and professional relationships; a great home and community; regular exercise routine; a connection with God; a spiritual community; comfortable financial situation; personal growth and development opportunities and more…so much more! I have a sense that I make a difference and that’s really important to me. I know my priorities and my values and I live my life based on them.

When I suddenly begin feeling overstressed, can’t find things, get short with my loved ones, then I know it’s time to take a break and recalibrate. It’s also time to communicate more so that the people around me who love me most, can help me be at my best. When my environment tells me that something isn’t working, I listen.

For instance, when I am pushing very hard to finish a project, sometimes my high expectations and perfectionism get in the way and cause me to spend every possible minute working on it and perfecting it. I might neglect my need to eat a well balanced meal, might sacrifice sleep, or like I mentioned above, I might lose my patience easily with those around me. I might feel a tenseness in my neck, a knot in my stomach, a headache or an anxiety that doesn’t want to go away. Whereas, I used to push even harder, now I take a break. Perhaps, I might call a friend, send an email, go for a walk, or play with the dog. I might even invite the kids to do something fun with me or snuggle with my husband.

I choose the organizations I want to participate in and don’t volunteer for everything that comes my way. I was invited to be on the Board for the newest organization I joined but respectfully turned it down because I knew I had enough on my plate. Saying “no” even to those real tempting offers makes a big difference. Realize that if you say “Yes” to something, you may have to say “no” to something else because there’s only so much time in a day. When you take on too much, quality suffers and things begin slipping through the cracks, or worse, your health or relationships suffer.

If you really want to have it all, there are 3 simple things you can do:

1. Gain more awareness
2. Make more powerful choices
3. Add more energy

I’ll Blog about each one separately so I can keep these brief.

Yours,

Coach Natalie